If you are supporting a young person who self harms or has been through sexual exploitation or abuse, it is important that you access the information and support that you need so that you can help them to stay safe from harm.

If they are self harming, the following tips may be useful:


React calmly without anger or judgement – talk honestly about the effect their self harm may have but in a way that shows compassion

Talk to them when they feel like self harming and try to understand their feelings

Help them to think about their self harm not as a shameful secret but as a problem to be sorted out together

Find out about getting help and encourage them to get support – maybe go with them to see someone

Make sure that you talk to your supervisor or someone close to you so that you get some support


Expect them to stop overnight – it’s difficult and takes time and effort

Become too controlling or make them promise to stop as a condition of your support – provide structure

Make yourself responsible for their self harm or become the person who is supposed to stop them You can find out more about our services here and how to refer a young person here.

Service information

Self Harm Peer Support

Young women and female to male or non-binary transgender young people ages 13-16 years can join our weekly group. The group is held weekly after school in our centre in Wealdstone.

Safe to speak

Long term open ended therapy for young people ages 12-19 who are self harming or have experience of sexual abuse or exploitation. Young people need to be attending a Harrow school or be able to come to the wïsh centre in Wealdstone for sessions.

We can also offer 1:1 support for young people who self harm ages 19-25.

Positive changes

Weekly peer support group for young people (mixed gender) ages 15-19 years with mental health vulnerabilities to develop new skills, friendships and confidence through volunteering and campaigning. The group is held weekly after school in our centre in Wealdstone.

Safe step

Early intervention and prevention of self harm and child sexual exploitation for children ages 8-12 years. Arts based and talking therapies. Children will be seen weekly at their Harrow School.


Up to 4 sessions with our Youth Support & Participation Worker to explore the best options for you or for the young person and help them engage with the wïsh centre or other services. Young people can be seen in school or at the centre in Wealdstone.

We will not accept a referral if:

  • The young person hasn’t consented
  • The young person is currently using class A drugs
  • The young person has a recent history of violence or exploitation of others

Acceptance of a referral for a young person who has made a recent suicide attempt or who is currently involved in high risk CSE will be dependent on the outcome of our risk assessment.